I'm reminded of a story I heard more than a few years ago. I
regret that I do not remember who told it. It was someone I knew in passing.
His father, for all that he was an American, was a big fan of the Queen and
sent her a Christmas card every year. This person that I knew had occasion to
be at an 'official ceremony' in another country, that the Queen was attending.
When he was introduced, the Queen asked him about his
father, to which he told her that he had died several years ago. She then
replied with something along the line of 'Oh, we'd wondered why we'd stopped
getting his card every year.'
That right there says a lot.
They were completely blown away by the simple fact that the
Queen had noticed.
Oh, and they ended up on the Queen's Christmas card list
after that.